June 27, 2008

A Reality Denied

Justin Katz

Trayce Hansen explains plainly and accurately why children need one parent of each sex:

All else being equal, children do best when raised by a married mother and father. It's within this environment that children are most likely to be exposed to the emotional and psychological experiences they need in order to thrive.

Men and women bring diversity to parenting; each makes unique contributions to the rearing of children that can't be replicated by the other. Mothers and fathers simply are not interchangeable. Two women can both be good mothers, but neither can be a good father.

So here are five reasons why it’s in the best interest of children to be raised by both a mother and a father.

Underneath it all, to insist that there is no justification for setting apart the particular familial relationship between a man and a woman heretofore known as marriage is to insist that there is no significant difference between the sexes. That just isn't the case.

I'd overlay onto Hansen's points, by the way, that marriage between biological parents also brings benefits of a sociological and psychological sort related to one's connection to ancestry (not to mention the health benefits of lineal knowledge).

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Dr. Hansen doesn't "explain" why children need a two opposite-sex parents as much as give her opinion on why she thinks they should.

Her opinion is certainly valid, as is everyone else's, but she gives no evidence that having heterosexual parents is better than having homosexual parents. Merely she states what she believes and gives justifications for it.

I don't have the time to answer her justifications specifically but what she writes is so debatable it makes the point moot.

It's just her opinion, not an evidence-based reasoning on which set of parents is better or worse.

Posted by: Jeff Gale at June 27, 2008 11:03 AM

I guess we can all start hallucinating and call left right, up is now down, and stupid is now smart. Because that is exactly what you have to do to think that a homosexual couple is a better option, even a desirable option, for children. Overall, a mother and a father is unquestionably the best situation for children to thrive.
Now, does that mean that every heterosexual couple is better than every homosexual couple? NO!
Then there is simply the fact that, if it was so desirable, why can't homosexuals produce children between themselves, meaning no artificial means? There is a reason they can't - because they shouldn't. And we didn't decide that. And we shouldn't try and change it.

Posted by: Mike Cappelli at June 27, 2008 1:29 PM

An Conservative parents,are better parents then liberal parents.

Because Conservatives are smarter, stonger,better looking,taller, harder working,more loving,more charitable, and sexier,than Liberals

Posted by: FabuLance at June 27, 2008 2:02 PM

You're right, Lance.
I've found that conservatives who oppose gay marriage generally have better hair than its supporters.

Posted by: rhody at June 27, 2008 3:21 PM

You forgot happier, too.
Not to mention, far fewer emotional issues. Go figure.

Posted by: Mike Cappelli at June 27, 2008 4:07 PM

This is gobblygook. So, a mom that's a drunk and a dad that abuses his wife is better and there are more lessons to be learned.

Listen up, about 67 studies have been conducted by the American Psychological Association, focusing on children of gay parents. Each of these studies proved that children do the same no matter which environment they grow up in. The American Medical Association and the American Academy of Pediatrics agree with these findings. Also, only 6 percent of these families have children that are actually adopted. Most are of the group who had a parent come out after they were conceived. Of course, children raised by gay parents also get their share of criticism and taunting by people around them.

The percentage that actually does follow in the footsteps of their gay parents are around 3% and they were born with that preference.

Now, those same stats skyrocket when a child grows up with a Female Mommy and a Male Daddy ("normal home") that have a f'd up home and the child is more likely to follow in these footsteps.

I would love my child no less if he were gay or lesbian...even by 5 or 6 you can tell with a child what the preference is. Teacher's know, parents know.

There is NO PROOF that a 'normal home' is better. Sell this rubbish to the other people who are ignorant.

Posted by: Suzanne Arena at June 27, 2008 8:56 PM

Yeah Suzanne, and when you have two homosexual men that are heroine addict pedofiles with young children, that is definitely not good. But we're not talking about the exceptions here. We're talking about what is best for the vast majority of cases and that is a mother and a father,hopefully that are married to each other.
Now take your perverted freakish morals and go peddle them to ignoramus' like yourself. No matter how much you freaks don't want to believe it, a mother and a father is the BEST setting for children.
People like you have the morality of prostitutes. You'll find a way to justify any behavior in your minds.

Posted by: Mike Cappelli at June 27, 2008 10:42 PM

The folks who "own" Anchor Rising must be proud to have Mike Cappelli on their team.

Posted by: Fabu-Lance at June 27, 2008 11:12 PM

I'm not sure, Fabu-Lance, what you intend to accomplish by redirecting Mike's uncharitable and unnecessary statements toward the rest of us. There's at least an even tit-for-tat for the "teams" by that measure.

Posted by: Justin Katz at June 27, 2008 11:42 PM


Inasmuch as you don't point to any of your claimed 67 studies, I can't respond to them on their individual merits. That said, I've done substantial reading on the topic, and all of the studies of which I'm aware making such claims require disclaimers. Some compare same-sex households to single-parent or otherwise divorced households. Some simply define real differences between children as insignificant (e.g., sexual adventurism and likelihood to experiment with and pursue sexually intimate same-sex relationships are not included in an analysis of the children's qualities).

The picture isn't as clear as you'd like it to be.

Posted by: Justin Katz at June 27, 2008 11:49 PM

Mike C, homosexuals are not pedophiles, by definition.

And all sides of this issue would probably agree that it would be real bad for a child to be raised by a heroin addict of any orientation.

Also, if Suzanne Arena is the person I know, she is not an ignoramus. Want proof? Ask her what she thinks of the RI AG.

Posted by: Monique at June 27, 2008 11:54 PM

Of same-gender partners raising children, 41.1% have been together for 5 years or longer, whereas 19.9% of heterosexual unmarried couples have stayed together for that duration.

Vermont has the highest % Mike so you might never want to move there.

There is plenty of info out there folks and you have to read and educate yourselves with open minds. Quite frankly, if you already see the green eyed children as better than the others...you will have a problem grasping this logic. Here's one that chalk full of info and stats:

It is unfortunate that children of Gay/Lesbian/Transgender marriage often are conflicted by their experiences to social marginalization, discrimination, and hate-crime violence by other students. I do agree that children have enough on their plate to contend with and this seems unfair. However, the same small minded argument of Mike's can be made with Obama's mom & dad which suffered similar ridicule back in their day.

"They have been described as more tolerant of diversity and more nurturing toward younger children than children whose parents are heterosexual.41,42"

I am not going to hold discussions with Trolls that have nothing but vile to write. All others I am happy to discuss and learn from.

Thanks Monique....yeah, I'm the one with a loss for words re: the AG - ;+}

Posted by: Suzanne Arena at June 28, 2008 11:51 AM

I am not suggesting that is the norm for homosexuals. It is merely meant as a retort to Suzanne's allegation of heterosexuals as " a mom that's a drunk and a dad that abuses his wife..."
Just tit for tat.
Suzanne, if you can't take it - don't dish it out. You left wingers feel very free to impugn others for their beliefs, and get so indignant when someone pulls the same on you. Don't even try that crap with me.

Posted by: Mike Cappelli at June 28, 2008 5:34 PM

There is no better argument for supporting gay marriage than the words of Mike Cappelli.

Posted by: rhody at June 30, 2008 11:43 AM
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